Training You want your budgie to associate your hand with good things. Slowly try to attempt to pat your budgies head – that is the place they like their pats/scratches. Once your budgie allows you to pat its head, you will find that the bonding process will speed up greatly. They don’t like their wings being touched, and running your finger down their back means you want to be its sexual partner in budgie language! So its really not a good idea to do that.